Hole in the Soul

Sounds a little strange and certainly not very professional, however it does describe the majority of users and it does offer a short metaphoric statement about what folks of every kind and description are trying to fill with their drug of choice.

Ask any substance affected adult, and they will agree that when they were children they thought they were at best adopted, or at worst just know they were from another planet. Neil Swan, Nida Notes Contributing Writer states, “Two important risk factors identified as predictors of later drug use are shy behaviour–described by the teachers as sitting alone, having few friends, and not speaking up in class–and aggression–described as fighting with others or breaking rules. Shyness and aggression are types of poor social adaptation distinct from symptoms of anxiety or depression, which is internal feelings, noted the researchers.” Nida Notes Volume 10, Number 1, January/February 1995.

We often speak of behaviours that are a result of self protective habits in childhood. These thoughts were great ideas when we were six years old and the ensuing habitual behaviours helped us to survive in the jungle in our young minds. What we didn’t understand was that our behaviours, while protecting us from perceived danger, where actually pushing us further away from healthy socialization and successful integration into society. These maladaptive behaviours became entrenched and while we sought to be part of, the hole in our souls kept growing and we kept trying to find ways to fill it up without having to drop our protective shells.

When people begin to pull themselves out of unhealthy behaviors,  they are also bringing with them the fears, perceptions and behaviours of that child from so long ago. They come to us with an adult’s sense that the recovery process can work for them but because of that protective habit that hole in their soul has kept on growing and they have continued to throw anything into it that they might fill it up with. Desperation is the hand that opens the door to a new life, the assistance offered here will allow you to create new beliefs about yourself while working  your own personal program that finally fills that gaping sinkhole with joy and life and a true sense of being part of the world…..finally.

                                                                                                    Yours in the Morning


Author: shawlj

I am on new ground now, finally free from many decades of ‘taking care of business’. The letters behind my name became an anchor that I have finally broken free from. You have a standing invitation to walk with me here, where the living is easy and uncluttered.

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